Do I tell my wife and children I'm gay?

Posted September 29th, 2008 by noocleer

Me and my wife have just had our second kid. I love both my kids and my wife, but I've just realized I'm gay. I don't know what to do. I haven't met anyone, but I don't want to lie. Should I wait until the kids are grown and at college, do I confess now and blow my family apart?

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Uh No! Don't Hurt your wife like that, she'd just die. Lets not mention the psychological effects of the little children growing up in a house like that. if you're going to tell her keep it from the children, save some part of you family ;)

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i agree -- wait for the kids to grow up, but share with your wife?

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Do some guy and see if you like your dick being in assholes.

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Yes, I know a guy who is gay and hides it. The most unhappy character I've ever met.

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tough one...i think you should seek some counselling to make sure that you really know what you want. telling your wife now without advice from professionals could ruin everything. seek help from professionals then go togther to talk this through as a husband and wife. good luck mate, do you 'know' or just think that you could be gay? please go and see someone who can give proper considered advice please

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I think it would be best to come clean. (No pun intended :P)

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Yes, I know this situation well, and hiding it not only would make you miserable, but eventually it will reflect the misery on your family as well, and that in itself might break the family apart, but they won't even realize why at that point. At least if you tell the truth to your wife, whatever comes of it you and she will both know what happened to the marriage and family and why it had to happen that way. After telling your wife, whatever decisions that need to be made can then be made by the two of you, instead of just you trying to make the decision yourself (to tell or not to tell)...so, it's really only fair to tell her.

Tell her NOW! Do not wait. You will be miserable your whole life and things will just be much much more worse when you drop the bomb on them later. Kids of gay parents love them and are able to deal with it much better when they are younger. If you wait until they are old they will feel like their whole lives were a lie and you lied to them and will hate you.

Yeh, after almost ten years of marriage and an 8 year old son my husband and I separated and I am now finding out that he "plays on the other team". I'm sure that he will blame it on his drug addiction but how do I begin to tell our son or do I let him tell his son.

Vagina better than penis yum yum

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Just run away! The kids will handle that much better than knowing that you like packing fudge.

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I have a friend whose dad is gay, and came out when she was pretty young. She loves him and her mom respects him, and I feel like it is because he was honest with them. However, if you can see it being better for your family if you don't leave them, you need to stay. You obviously love your wife, even if you are not in love with her, and that is a lot better than some people out there. Children grow up better when they don't have a fractured family.

Are you really gay or just like anal sex better? You wife most probably does not want to touch you anally or use a strapon. Are you fustrated and looking for a change? Don't do it until the kids are on their own.

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