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I feel sorry for you. There is nothing as sick as loving a person who does not love you. You want the best for him!! Do you want any more proof that you are sick and need some intervention. He has moved on, dumped you and you cannot handle the rejection.

His girlfriend is not crazy - YOU ARE. You need help.

For many women, the first love is for ever. These women are psychologically damaged when they got dumped by their first love. Without serious help they will make anyone who has a relationship with them very miserable - and God help the guy who ends up marrying them. The sick part is that instead of becoming a nun or joining Mother Teresa because their first love dumped them - they go on to shitty marriages and children with relationship problems.

If you want a shot at a reasonable life - get help now and resolve your attachment. It is probably an addiction and not unlike what whores feel for their pimps. It is unhealthy for you. In short get help now.

Don't take in what the person above has said completely. It is important to just let go. If you and him were really meant to be together than you would know it.

I had this same problem. I later realized that at the end, I had only been infatuated by his changed looks and the memories we shared together. He's not the same person he used to be and doesn't treat me the same way now either. He's got all this baggage from all the horrible girls he's dated since being with me. Even though I loved him afterwards for so long, the light has slowly faded with time.

Try your best to move on. I know that its difficult to find someone to replace him, but that guy and his loser girlfriend shouldn't determine your happiness. Dwelling too much in the past and being anchored by it isn't healthy. Keeps you from succeeding on your own. It hurts sooo much to love someone that may not love you as much back. You deserve so much better.

Sometimes, when things are not going too well, we are all vulnerable to such obsessive feelings about past lovers. We forgive all the horrible things they did, we blame everyone else - his mother, his wife, his ex wife, and make excuses for their problems and bad behavior. It can get pretty extreme so that you think the whole world misunderstand your true love for this person.
Now if this man actually shows up and gives you any encouragement, you could be in for some real trouble. If they are married you could become the mistress they never leave their wife for.
The baggage we carry from our past can be our worst enemy and trap us into some very destructive situations. Just read all the unhappy stories just on this site.
Look inside yourself and resolve your issues and move on. There are plenty of good men you can love who will love you right back. Your friends will like him and your happiness will show on your radiant face.
Losers and ex-boyfriends just bring us down.

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Carin