So this is just another story of a girl who is letting a guy get to them pretty badly. I'm just not sure what to do. I've known this guy for about five/six months because we go to the same college and have had class together. I saw him around a few times and figured we had things in common, so I plucked up just enough courage to talk to him and we became friends. We've gone out (not as in a date, just hanging out) and see each other often around campus. We talk in class, facebook friends, the whole shebang. Typical college students. It started out as me just liking him as a person and finding him interesting. We're alike in almost every way, he's just more outgoing and social than I am. Then I developed feelings for him and it all got complicated.
Now he's transferring this summer to a college about an hour away and I've been dancing around the idea of telling him how I feel because I feel like once he moves, I'll never manage to see him again.
On one hand, he is sweet and genuine and does things that make me wonder if he sees me as more than a friend. Such as buying me a gift because he knows my taste and thinks of me when he sees something, seems happy to see/hear from me, is very talkative and enthusiastic in conversation, hugs me goodbye sometimes, etc.
On the other hand, he does things like he went from texting me all day for awhile to now hardly contacting me at all outside of school, takes forever to make solid plans with because he gives me vague answers and on one occasion, didn't let me know that we were actually going to hang out until about an hour beforehand, and also has a lot of friends that happen to be girls as well. So I don't know if he's actually just being friendly, or he's meaning something more and I'm just not seeing it.
I've talked to others about it and they recommend that I say something to him, but I just can't shake off my insecurities and doubts that he might just be being flirty without realizing it. I'm worried that if I say something, it'll alter the friendship that I really, truly enjoy and he'll feel awkward about me for awhile.
Does anyone know what I should do?
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