is there some guy code about not being friends with your boys friends?
Posted December 10th, 2009 by ashesofroses
first off we are not technically officially dating ( I have no idea what his friends think of our relationship). He was fine with me talking to his best friend and being fb friends. BUT when I started talking to his best friends girlfriend , he got weird. (they seem fine now but he said I violated some code?)
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swash said:
fo sure man, he got weird coz he thinks you are a menace, common guy's thoughts
Shy said:
It has to do with boundaries. Wait for him to make introductions before you start swimming in his social circles, and pay attention to the way he introduces you to people. The best thing to do is after a party, when you guys are laying in bed if it seems like he might not mind some conversation, ask him about his friends and the people they are involved with. Get a sense of the people he likes and would rather avoid, and take that as a cue of who to get to know.
When a guy is having problems with his girl, he doesn't talk to her, he talks to another guy. It's sort of the way we make sure that we're not being unreasonable or assholish before making something of it -which we usually won't do anyway, because most of us would rather get along than get into it. Its just almost never worth it.
Having said that, your boyfriend might know something about their relationship you don't -and as a result, he might be annoyed that you could become involved in whatever drama bullshit they have going. Or, it might have to do with some history between that girlfriend and himself he doesn't want you to know about -and that isn't always a sexual history either, it could be completely innocent but just super embarrassing. But if you talk to him about people before you talk to those people, you will always be fine.
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