im torn between my mother and my world. everyone i assiocate with basically hates her for the things shes done to me the past. but i cant bring myself to accually HATE her. no one knows that i do love her. i dont know what to do anymore its so hard trying to see everyone else i love without hurting my mom for being away for too long. i cant stand having to hurt her. when i go back i have to make her look like the bad guy and make up some excuse as to why she makes me come back.
i really need some advice.
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bigfan said:
makes sense -- everyone else has only behavior, not blood to go on (if one of your friends shared the same things about his/her mom, you'd hate that mom too, as a friend). you have a reationship with your mom that only YOU can figure out. i hated my dad for 15 years after he left my mom (i was 12 or so). as an adult, i got to know him as an adult, all good, bad, mistakes and merits made sense. not forgiven, but different at 40 than 14, for sure. as an adult, today, how do you judge her? if still think what she did was impossible to understand, then don't try. with my dad, i now think of him as a true, best friend -- not a dad... he wasn't really there for that, and i wasn't buying anyhow. but we are both very happy with what we have.
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