My friend is getting beat by her dad. She has been her whole life. I'm the only one that knows but she wont let me tell anyone because she still loves her dad and I fall asleep praying she won't be dead by morning... I love my friend and she cuts and really deep to and I have two choices loose her as a friend or loose her! It's not fair! please this is serious please help me!
Comments
dohickey said:
right now ,call a shelter (look in the phone book even). they can get her a safe place to stay, and then send family services over in the morning. seriously.
shy and cluless said:
she says I can't tell anyone or her dad will go crazy! :( I'm scared
Shy said:
Contact a higher authority perhaps? Talk to a counselor? Don't post on this site? Be proactive and use the internet to find out what to do in this kind of situation? Not listen to me because I am just some anonymous poster in the internet?
rosebud said:
do try to tell someone... talk to the authorities so they can try to get your friend out and get a restraining order against her dad...
yayareaboy said:
alright fuck what these people are saying here's what you wanna do. you wanna get your dad to beat the shit out of that asshole. it's like nicolas cage in the weather man, talk to you dad and get him to just walk up to him during the middle of the day and just beat him down and say some shit like, ' you ever touch your daughter i'll be back and i'll fucking kill you' or something insane like that. your not seriously fucking over your friend's dad cause he's not going to jail or anything and your friend will never find out you told your dad cause her dad will be so freaked he won't even tell her what happened. if you don't have a dad then a uncle or just some guy who can pull that off.
Shy said:
Really? Then what? Live the rest of your life having to look behind your back? Someone who beats their children have serious mental issues, and take revenge. Plus, whoever is solicted into "beating" the guy down can be sent to jail if anyone witnesses it or the guy calls the cops. Then the guy will continue beating his daughter. The beater may be found out from the altercation, but is it worth going to jail for assault in the first degree? Plus you would be possibly prosecuted for hiring someone to "beat the shit out" of the guy.
Shy said:
Alright you know what's hilarious about that you were already refuting your own point while you were saying all that pussy bullshit. He's not gonna press charges cause in the process they're gonna find about the daughter and at some point she'll spill the beans and there'll just be this huge cluster fuck for the dad that gets beat. I mean dude you gotta be like jigsaw in all those saw movies, predict what the victim is going to do. What genius plan do you have? Just tell the girl it's alright that her dads beating her and not do anything about it, cause your afraid of being convicted of "assault in the first degree"? Tell her every thing's gonna be okay and pad yourself on the back saying you made a difference? Look try to come up with another way that'll actually solve anything other then running to the cops like the fag that you are.
Shy said:
Dude this is so old and I shouldn't reply. . .But you are right on.
Don't be a cop caller, handle your own shit. Any man who would put a hand to a child -violently or sexually- is like a mad dog, they just need to be put down. Get your old man to beat the living fucking shit out of this chicks dad, and if that doesn't work. . .Bury him.
Shy said:
thank you for the advice I'll try
Shy said:
You have to choose
"is her life worth losing a friend over"
This is not a movie and things don't get solved by you beat me i beat you.
She is a friend and you are concerned but you have to choose
she told you in hopes that you would tell someone because she can't
you are her chance and if you fail her it will be your fault when she is gone.
Yes she may be mad but that id for show she will calm down and thank you for it when she gets that it will be better.
Yet age is a factor under 18 will need somewhere to go and most likely with abuse cases they will not let family take her in because of the family might know and not protect. This is the scary part. The father will not be left alone with her after the fact to hurt her again. Those words are used to make someone timid and controlled. She needs to know she can control not be controlled.
You need to choose
"her life or her friendship"
Shy said:
Alright that's genius, fuck what I said do this.
Shy said:
ok...
Shy said:
A simple call to 911 to report it would get the ball rolling. Ignoring it won't make it go away or make it get better.
It may sound lame, but I can't help but think of The Offspring song "Kristi, are you doing okay?" It a sad song about a girl who was being abused and a classmate that suspected as much but did nothing and the regret of not having spoken up.
This will haunt you forever if you don't tr to help. A call to 911 will get Child Protection Service to get her out of there.
Shy said:
I'm assuming both you and your friend are under 18. This is way too much of a burden and responsibility for a young person to shoulder. I suggest you talk to someone at your school - a trusted teacher or counselor. They are legally required to report the abuse, so you don't have to be responsible for that.
This is definitely one of those times when doing what's right means breaking a promise to a friend.
Shy said:
As weak as you think your friend is for allowing this to go on, on the contrary, she is a very strong person. She just needs to realize this. She does not want to tell, you find someone, if you must a school counslor, but if you can maybe a crisis center, they can direct you much better. She may be upset at you once she puts the pieces together however maybe her father will open his eyes and get help (since she loves him so much). But most importantly, she will be out of the situation. I was in this situation and I wish a friend would of helped me. However they would just say, "Your dad seems cool, he doesn't look like an asshole." I left my home at the age of 15, just to get out of my situation. Help your friend, maybe the crisis center will try to talk to her first, and see how she would like to handle things. I pray for the both of you.
Post new comment