I had a full-paid scholarship to a college. Over the summer, I found out I lost it because I didn't quite make the grades to keep it. Well, I was fine with that because I could get a loan. As I was applying, it said I needed a co-signer. So I called my mom, figuring that she would be willing to help her own daughter...I was wrong. She won't help me. She said that she felt like I was just using her for the money. WTF?!?! I always thought that family would be there for you through thick and thin, but I guess I was lied to. Now she's wanting me to come home and work at a min. wage job. Thanks mom...for being such a bitch.
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bigfan said:
wow -- seems the bigger issue is the mom-child relationship and expectations. she's right to treat you like an adult, but adults can be supportive and outline terms for "finance" that are quite separate than putting it all into relationship box, as she seems to do. try that, maybe -- a straight deal, and if you agree on terms (payments, grades) and step out, she's right to cut off her guarantee, but if you play by the terms, take it out of the mom-kid box!
curious said:
grow up. if you did not get the grades to keep the scholarship then you are at fault. Why should your mom pick up because you were too immature to do what had to be done. Grow up and go find out what else you yes you can do to stay in college. Then she will respect you and maybe next time sign for the loan.
MyDarkSide said:
It was YOUR scholarship, therefore, it was YOUR responsibility to maintain the requirements to keep it. You didn't, therefore, you are the one who has to face the consequences of your actions. Your mom isn't being a bitch, honey, she's being an adult...something you will learn to do eventually.
Shy said:
Learn to do your goddamn homework you dumb bitch. If i was your mom i woulda kicked your lazy ass outta my house!
Shy said:
have sex with her than post pics.
Shy said:
Does your mother have a college degree, or is she very religious? Is the college very far away? Often, parents worry that college will alienate them from their children, and so act irrationally about it.
You should sit down with your mother and talk to her about college - as adults. Realize that the money is hers, and not yours, and ultimately she has the say with what to do with it.
If you have to work for a year to pay for this, get a job as a waitress or bartender instead of working for minimum wage. With tips you can probably make $15 an hour at least, and spending a year after highschool to think about life never hurt anyone.
Cheree830 said:
You cannot blame your mom. Jut apply for the loans and remember to do the best you and study, because student loans will not be paid for unless you keep a "C" average. Maybe your mom doesn't have the money to help you, whatever her reasoning, it's her decision and it's not worth ruining your relationship with her or causing any hard feelings.
Good luck to you,
Cheree
DarkGoddessLibrarian said:
Sure, your grades are your fault. I think it also depends on your past financial history. If your mom thinks that you're not dependable, that she'll end up having to pay your debt, than unfortunately she's doing the right thing.
Shy said:
The thing is that this is what parents should do for their children. If you will not be able to help your children to succeed at life (this includes going to college) then DON'T HAVE CHILDREN YOU WORTHLESS SHITS. I'm so grateful that my parents regarded it as a responsibility to help me go to and pay for college, and I will return the favor to my own children some day. Anything less is COWARDICE.
another dude said:
I have so many problems with the above post I'm not sure I can fit them in here. Going to college, first off, does not buy you a path to success, and not going to college doesn't mean you won't succeed. Secondly, lives change in a big way over the 20 years it takes for someone to think about having children and when they actually go to college, anyone can fall on hard times at any point through those 20 years and not be able to get back to where they were before their children are looking at colleges; not being able to afford it isn't neccesarily due to a lack of planning. Thirdly, and most importantly, if your child isn't willing to work to keep their grades up while they are in college, you have every right to take that privilege - yes, it's a privilege, not a right - away from them, just like you would punish them in any other way.
As far as the original poster, there are always ways to work around these stumbling blocks. First off, I'd analyze the relationship you two have to try and see where she might get that idea. Then, talk to her reasonably and see if you two can't work out some kind of deal, most likely involving your grades, working part-time, or making payments to the loan. If that can't work, for whatever reason, go to the school's financial aid. Believe it or not, schools want you to succeed, and they will work to try and find a way for you to be able to continue going. It's not the end of the world.
Benny Rotten said:
You should have studied harder. You have noone but yourself to blame. Life isn't handed to you sugar pants.
Shy said:
Good ol' American values. Latinos and asians will give their life for their children.
Shy said:
Your mom is a bitch! Make sure you put her in an old folks home when she starts shitting her pants. Payback is a bitch mom!
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