So all I really want is to have some good sex. Thats all. No strings attached. But as a female, this is not an easy goal to achieve. All the men looking for one night stands aren't worth it in the end because they're lowsey lays. If he was worth it, then he'd be bragging to all of his buddies about it for the next few weeks. Scratch that, either way he would be bragging about it. I just want to be able to walk up to a guy I find attractive, ask him if he'd like to get it on and be done with it. Obviously, this isn't something to really complain about but it's been bugging me. Just needed to vent and now I have.
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Thirst4knowledge said:
Hey there... I still dont understand why its not easy goal to achieve? Why would you care if the guy brags to all his buddies about it? Especially if he doesnt know you or even if he did; would it matter? I think you may be surprised how "refreshing" a guy will perceive your honesty to be if you'd approach him and say:"Lets cut the crap, I find you really attractive but dont want anything serious. You interested?"
jakesgirl said:
i mthinkin dont do it...sounds like an easy thing right to just have sex and never talk to the guy again...but what if its mind blowing and u want more then you start to have feelings?? then what? and u could have a baby w this person. So id think twice before having causual sex w sum guy.
an0n said:
I would agree that a double standard exists, that women are viewed as "sluts" or other such verbiage for engaging in this type of activity, while men are championed for it. If that is what you mean about not wanting the guy to brag about it then I understand completely; just remember to uphold your half of the bargain by not telling any of your friends either.
On another note, do you not realize your own double standard? You want to be able to do this with no repercussion...but only with "attractive" men. I understand how "attraction" affects sexuality, however I might suggest opening your mind a bit as well. Do you think that in the event of really wanting a "one night stand" a guy is only going to settle for a super-model? If a guy wants to pick up a woman at a bar, he certainly may aim high, but that doesn't mean he's going home with a hottie. I know for a fact that when most guys want sex the way you are describing it (those who are not in a relationship hopefully), they'll typically settle for the best they can get, sometimes all the way to the bottom of the barrel, per se. Beggars can't be choosers as they say.
None of that is to say that you should not feel the way you do, just consider ALL sides of the other side of the fence, because the grass may not be so green over here. If you are attractive yourself, you really should have no trouble picking up a guy for a fling. How do you think other less "attractive" people feel on the subject? Is it fair (or a double standard) for only attractive people to get to have sex with attractive people, and the unattractive have to settle for less than attractive?
It is not anyone's fault how attractive they are (unless it is because they are slovenly and choose not to clean up a bit). Also consider this: if a person gets more or less sex based on their "attractiveness", there may be a correlation with how much work they are willing to do to please the other to keep it coming (no pun intended), i.e: Joe Stud may just want to get his rocks off and leave you hanging, whereas Bob Notsomuch would probably be willing to take care of you first if he thinks it can get him a return trip.
Sex should not be misconstrued into something that is solely based on the "attractiveness" of the partner. And additionally, if you find someone who can give you what you want no strings attached, why would you only want to limit it to one time? Why not work out a "schedule" or other arrangement of sorts. If a relationship does end up developing out of it, what's the harm if that actually satisfies you?
If you take nothing with you, take this: Strictly Sexual. It's a movie. Go rent it. Tonight. It's rated R, not porn. Not great acting, but I think you would get a real kick out of it, considering your vent. Watch it and you'll know what I mean in about the first 5-10 minutes. Check it out on IMDB at this URL: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0494277/
johnpaulgeorgeringo said:
Thank you for the insight. You sort of flipped my words around but in a good way. I'll be renting the movie soon enough. Thanks again!
Shy said:
OMG, when I was a young single guy I had to work it all night to pick up a girl and get her to go home with me. Chicks just have to say, "Hi, want to fuck" and it will work guaranteed. Okay, if you are fat and ugly, you might have to ask 3 guys before it works, but if you are normal looking it will work within the first two, guaranteed.
Shy said:
sounds like you are just making excuses for how you don't feel confident enough to just go out and get laid. or maybe that's not what you actually want in the first place.
cathy said:
people love to talk, no matter what you do.
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