Ok I am 33 and i don't really know how to go down on a guy.
My ex husband did not want me to so in all the time we were together (1991 to 2002) I never did.
So I got a book by a speech theropist to teach my self how to.
Ok I have been i a relationship now for 3 years and it is an issue. Not that i will not but i don't know how to.
I mean how do you tell someone sorry never really had to don't know how to and you want me to do what.
I know this is really funny but it seems to be an issue.
Anyway i told on of the girls on my dart team( an all girl team) and she told everyone at the bar.
So now it is a big joke. But what really gets me is that they are coming up to me one by one (corning me in the bathroom at the bar and in the parking lot) to ask if they can borrow it or where i got it.
I don't understand what the hell is the big deal if i was 18 and told my college roommate she would want the damn thing but because i am over 30 and never really went down on a guy its a big joke. But not a one of them will admit their own faults but ask for it it just erks me i think i will buy them all copies and give it to them at the bar in front of every one and yell that they don't need to borrow mine i need it back here is your own.
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Mopy said:
Your friends sound like real jerks to me. But, throw out the book, anyway. Like women, all men are different and they need to teach their partner what they like and how they like it. If he won't teach you, then, it's not your issue anymore, it's all his problem. It shouldn't be an embarasment to you to say that you've been lucky enough not to have been bothered in the past about performing oral sex. Tell your friends that you were were so good at intercourse that you never had to lower yourself to do oral tricks to get him excited. You've lived for 33 years not needing any education about it and it seems to have worked just fine for you. If your current man is not happy about the fact that you're even willing to go down on him (which, there are a lot of women who won't) and that you are willing to learn, then it's not worth worrying about. It he wants it done right, he's going to have to tell you how to get it done. You shouldn't need to waste your time and money on a dumbass book that doesn't even cater to your man's individual taste anyhow. Go back to the bookstore, buy "Can You Keep a Secret" by Sophie Kinsella, a pleasure read for YOU, spend your time relaxed and amused, and let this issue be what it truly is: not your problem.
Shy said:
Good God lady! Watch some amateur pornos. Do you know how to give a hand job? Or had sex for that matter? It is the same basic movement for fellating, just with your mouth. This is the most basic form of fellatio. Any guy would just be happy with that. It should be natural in my opinion. I was a very late bloomer in the sexual arena -- and I mean late. When I performed cunnilingus on my girlfriend for the first time in my life I had no clue what to do. All I knew is that I wanted to taste her, since I had never tasted a vagina before. My GAWD, it tasted delicious. Anyway, all I knew at the time is to go for her clitoris. I don't understand why some people have such a difficult time finding a clitoris. Just look at a picture of the female anatomy. I digress, just say to your partner that you have never really done it before. If you are in a healthy, trusting, caring, understanding relationship, your partner should not mind at all. That's all I got. Take it or leave it.
GodzillaMothra said:
focus your mouth on the head, lube with spit, grab the shaft firmly with your hand, make sure your lips touch the top of your hand and go up and down while sucking decently on the head, and like everyone else said, the rest is personal preference. Just do the best you can to replicate the most moist, tightest vacuum-esque vagina. Oh and if you can bear it, don't even do it as a warm up to sex, surprise him with it and other than a few tricks for style if you can get in a good rhythm and go relatively fast and use the above technique with a little hand twist while doing the up and down and always keeping the mouth on and sucking, make your man cum when he least expects it. And swallow. Or if its his fancy let him put the load all over your face and breasts. You might get a ring the next day, who knows?
meanmel said:
already got the ring and it is not him he is cool with the lack of what i can do. He understands that I have not been up to par (to say)It is that I hate to do thing I am not good at. Why do something that you can not do well if you can learn to do better.
Jenna78 said:
Hey meanmel, you won't learn how to give head from a speach therapist book, that's for sure. I'll tell you how, first of all - stop being afraid, just start licking his shaft and everything else up and down like a lollipop and don't worry if you mess up, you have to get in there, jump into the fire or so to say and you will get over time, just relax and don't worry about it. I found a cool site with a bunch of info on giving head, if you want so more tips maybe you should check it out http://www.howtogivehead.biz
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